1. Take a breath. It's uncomfortable to be confronted. That's OK. Remember - it doesn't make you a bad person to enjoy privileges. Even if the person calling you out may have been angry, and you may have strong feelings yourself about whatever you're talking about. Even if. This is a good time to say, "Right. Let me think about that and get back to you." Asking for more time to think is totally OK.

  2. Ask yourself: "Is it true?" If you had bowled someone over with your unchecked privilege, dang, yo, but it isn't the end of the world. Go for a run, do something physical, let the emotional charge dissipate.

  3. Go into the conversation again with the new knowledge. Apologize if that is appropriate (it often is).

  4. Show gratitude. Thank the other person for helping you gain awareness.